Blog post #17 of #ShiftYourHabits by Dace Pavloviča
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Why Is It Important to Believe in Yourself?
Today let’s talk about power which can be defined in three words: BELIEVE IN YOURSELF.
We all know this truth: when you have faith and you believe in you, in what you do - you can achieve your goals and to fulfill your dreams much easier! Not to follow the crowd anymore, but follow your own path.
You don’t care what others will say. You are truly you. You respect others, but you respect your own needs and values also.
You are not limited by others. You know who you are. You know that you CAN. And you DO it. You are not affected by other people opinions. You have strong faith and confidence that you will achieve anything you have planned to achieve in this life! You have faith and trust. And you simply go for it!!! In direction of your dreams!
But in most cases - it is not so. It is proved already by science – our childhood affects a lot in our lives. It creates our self-image, self-esteem. It forms our perception.
Since childhood we have been taught to think about ourselves in one certain way and sometimes we have got crooked mirrors which are not reflecting reality.
Not smart enough, not talented enough, not educated enough, not strong enough….not, not, not…
These all assumptions about ourselves, especially, if we have heard it from our parents, our siblings, from other close persons who have had big impact on our self-esteem, we can take as truth for us.
But in the reality we start to live pretending by someone who we are not. It is not us. It is taught opinion about ourselves in which we unconsciously try to fit in!
The hidden reason for us doing this – because we want to be loved, to be significant. (Those needs – to be loved, to be significant - are important for all of us). And unconscious hope comes with that – if we will be good enough, if we will try to do what others expect from us to be done, if we will be “good girls” or “good boys” – we will earn others acceptance and other people will love us.
It is extremely important to fit in in the environment we live, when we are children. We are fully dependent on our parents.
But when we are adults and still try to "fit in" - we pay high price for it.
If we still live by pretending someone else, trying to fit in somewhere, we lose our own path. And it can end with anxiety, with depression, with lot of fears. We can become very unhappy. And as more unhappy we feel, as less we see opportunities how to change our life and how to get out of this unhappy vicious circle.
While we believe in those assumptions that we have received about ourselves since our childhood, it is tough to take steps toward our dreams. Because what you think about yourself and what you believe to be true about yourself – is what determines your behavior. And that is what you will achieve. And if you keep looking at yourself with crooked mirror, you are blocking yourself from being YOU. You are not free. You live with this feeling like ‘caged’.
If you don’t believe in yourself, you will settle down with less. You will not allow yourself to go after what is important for you. Even worse – you will not allow yourself to want more.
This is the reason why it is so important for you to believe in yourself. It will give yourself the inner strength, inner power, persistence, faith even then if nobody else will believe in you!
That is the power hidden of those words. It renews your confidence, helps overcome any fears you have, and gives lot of courage. All of that is what you need to achieve whatever you want. Don’t doubt about it.
Believe in yourself! Restore this belief if you have lost it. Try to step out of this imaginary box where you have gained experienced that you not “good” (educated, smart and any other limitations) enough for something you want to achieve.
Just you can change it. Just you can switch this attitude to yourself. You are the only person in this world who are spending with yourself 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. There is no closer friend in this world for you as .. YOU.
I do believe that and it shows my experience also.
When you start:
1) to follow your Own Path,
2) start to implement your dreams
3) become aware what is important for you and
4) restore this belief in yourself about you,
5) not listening to others, but knowing your own priorities
6) and going in this direction,
your inner strength extremely increases. As you become aligned with your heart and soul!
And you start to experience miracles in your life. But those "miracles" couldn’t happen with you if you wouldn’t believe in yourself, if you would not had established your own relationship WITH YOU at the highest level of awareness you can.
First step forward to yourself – Believe In Yourself. To be you again. To be free.
Of Shift Your Habits
My name is Dace Pavloviča.