Blog post #23 of #ShiftYourHabits by Dace Pavloviča
Shift Your Habits
Make Your “Orders” Wisely
Today let’s talk about orders we make in our lives.
For comparison let’s suppose we are in the restaurant. The waiter brings the menu. You look at the menu carefully, you try to feel what you would like to taste tonight and you choose, let’s say – chicken noodle soup.
And you make the order. What you expect to be in front on your table is: chicken noodle soup. Not beef, not fish. Chicken noodle soup! And if the waiter will bring you something another – not what you ordered for – it is quite possible you will not be happy with it. You expect to receive what you ordered for.
We can very closely relate that sample with restaurant to our lives also.
What words we say, what thoughts we think, is what we order (invite) in our lives. And sometimes we are so surprised: “why???? Why did it happen to me?” The very honest answer: "It didn't happen TO you, it happened FOR you, as you asked FOR it.."
If we think all the time about the same, talk about the same, and all our energy goes on the one exact thing (no matter if we want it, or don’t want) – we attract that event to our lives. Not always directly, but we experience what we have been focusing on. We 'create' it for us.
For example, if you live being afraid of something bad that could happen with you, it’s the energy you will be interacting with.. Energy of fears. When you live on those fear vibrations, you attract …situations, people which will create more fear in you. Universe is like the waiter in the restaurant. What you ask is what you receive.. In other words, what you carry in you, is what you see more around you. You subconsciously will be looking for situations which create more fear..
And you will be ‘delivered’ what you have been asking for. You ‘ordered’ it. You will receive it. You can’t ‘receive’ courage if you ordered for fear ‘on your plate’. Our subconscious works exact such way. Those are laws of universe as well..
Let’s take another example. Let’s say that you expect that someone will hurt you. You are thinking about it. You are talking about it. You don't trust him/her. You KNOW that HE/SHE will definitely hurt you. Unconsciously you "make order" for this person to hurt you. And when it happens, you say: "I knew it! I knew it will happen!" Of course, it happened. What you 'order' is what you 'experience'.
How to stop it?
We all know - words have power. Thoughts also create our reality. And we choose our words. We choose our thoughts. We make those orders by ourselves. No matter - consciously or unconsciously. We will experience what we focus on.
Think from another side: "What do you really WANT in your life?" Be specific. Focus on "want" side (not "don't want"). Shift your focus. Shift your focus on courage. Shift your focus on possibilities. Shift your focus on endless opportunities for you.
And don't be afraid of negative thoughts. Those thoughts can't hurt you unless you give power to those thoughts above you. And any negative thought still can be transformed in positive one also.
Using "yes..... , but... " technique.
" Yes, I feel insecure about ....., but at least I can try .."
"Yes, I am afraid that something bad can happen, but I will not give too much power to those thoughts. I know that those thoughts comes from my past experience. I will not allow them power above me!"
And so on.
If we return back to our orders.
What will you 'order' for yourself?
What do you WANT on your 'table' if to speak in metaphor?
What will you DO to make it happen?
Make your orders wisely. You are not helpless. Don't underestimate the power you have.
You create your reality. Your words and thoughts will determine how you feel. You remember we already talked about power the words and thoughts have. (You can read that blog post HERE)
You choose it. Don't do the same you did before if you see it leads to nowhere. Make different orders for yourself. To experience different outcome as well.
Have a calm and relaxed afternoon,
My name is Dace Pavloviča.