Shift Your Habits
Blog post #14 of #ShiftYourHabits By Dace Pavloviča
Live with Tunnel Vision
Today let’s talk about importance not to listen to other people opinions, if your heart says something different or even the opposite. In other words, why it is so important to listen to your own heart (not to other people opinions) and always trust your own feelings about something, following your own intuition.
We all know it, but still quite often don’t follow this simple truth: nobody outside of us can know what we feel inside, what we are experiencing, what dreams are living in our hearts etc. But somehow – despite this simple truth – we are still trying to find approval outside for our emotions, our dreams and so on.
If we spend most of our time trying to persuade someone else or to get someone’s else approval for something we want to do (for example, talking about our dreams), but don’t get expected acceptance – it can create huge chaos in ourselves. We start to doubt in ourselves. We lose confidence. We lose our strength.
What is important to be mentioned: other people have their own dreams and their own experience. And they will share with us their opinion based on their experience. You can listen to it. But never take it as your own if it doesn’t resonate with you.
And I am not talking about family members. When we love someone, we share what is important for us and always look for compromises, based on what they say and trying to find out the middle way.
What I’m trying to emphasize – when we spend too much our time on focusing on other people opinions, thoughts- we can lose our own path.
And as the result of it we lose connection (bond) with our heart. We interrupt our cooperation with ourselves. We put our focus somewhere outside. Trying to find answers there. Forgetting that all answers about us are living in us, not somewhere outside of us.
And guess what happens if we do so for long time? If we put other people thoughts and words in first place and forgot about our own?
Yes, you’re right. Anxiety, insecurity and doubts increase in us. Fears come. And this insecurity creates struggling, we start to live like being ‘caged’. Not being free anymore. How could we be free if we have been living in fear all the time being afraid of what others will say or think.
There is really simple technique which you can use to shift your mindset. Your perception. To help yourself not to see and listen to someone's else opinion.
It means you are very focused on your own dream, own wish and you are going after it no matter how outer circumstances are. You don’t listen to anyone who says to you – “you will not succeed”. You don’t listen to someone who is trying to persuade that you are “not good enough.. not smart enough…” (etc.) to achieve what you are planning to achieve.
You stop listening to other people opinions as you become aware – they are based on their limiting beliefs about themselves. And you are not allowing their fears to settle in your mind as your own.
And what also important – you stop telling those powerless affirmations to yourself also. You cross out of your ´dictionary’ the words - “I am not good enough.., too old… or too young.. it is too late now…” You don’t use them anymore. And you trust what your heart says and you allow your heart to show the path!
Tunnel vision is what you need. To maintain very strong relationship with yourself. To keep this bond with your heart alive. And not to focus on someone else. But put full focus on your own dreams and doing your best to achieve them!
Live with this special tunnel vision each day! See what you want to achieve and go for it! Just you can live your dreams. And don’t let anybody stop or distract you! No anxiety, neither depression will visit you if you will be living in harmony, in accordance with your heart and soul. And you is the one who makes this choice.
My name is Dace Pavloviča.